There is no better way to gain perspective of your true place in the world than by parenting a toddler.
My nearly-4 year old daughter has spent the last 2 years of her life documenting evidence to support her theory that I am, despite my best efforts, not a dominant hierarchical authority-figure worthy of obedience.
All of my instructions – “please finish your breakfast”; “please don’t use your cereal like jewellery”; “please don’t play chicken with that rubbish truck” – are met with an arched eyebrow, followed by a Hollywood “humph”.
What follows is, of course, the action that is the diametric opposite of what I have asked.
My toddler has equated independent bipedal propulsion with total autonomy of all decisions pertaining to her life. My attempts to wrest control back from her monomaniacal clutches are as pesky and as exasperating and as fundamentally futile as a mosquito biting through armour. She knows what I clearly do not: eventually, and inevitably – by open hand or swatter or spray – she will win and I will lose, and the natural order of things will recommence, with her at the pinnacle of my family’s food chain, and me, languishing at its foot. Continue reading →